What’s your strategy?

Time outs don’t seem to be very effective for B.  I don’t know if we just aren’t doing it right or what, but right now I feel like I am failing my son by not knowing how to teach him right from wrong.  He needs to learn not to hit his friends, to not throw toys, to not be destructive.  I just don’t know how to teach him.  I had hope that it was just a problem at home, but it’s not.  He’s being a trouble maker at daycare, too, and they don’t know what to do either.   What’s your strategy in these situations?  How do you teach your kids not to push their friends down when they want a turn with the Cozy Coupe?  We’re supposed to go to dinner with friends on Friday night and leave both boys with their babysitter, and right now I am afraid that she won’t be able to handle him.

I’m a perfectionist.  I always have been and probably always will be.  But with parenting?  Perfection isn’t really an option, and I am really struggling with coming to grips with that.  All I can do is my best, but right now it feels like that isn’t enough.

2 Responses to “What’s your strategy?”


  • I think it’s kind of a stage where they just don’t get it yet. What seems to work best for Tillie is a stern voice and me signing no. She usually cries but then at least I know she knows I was upset. (At least that’s what I hope.) It doesn’t always work. 5 minutes later she was coloring the bookshelf again.

  • Time out never worked with us either. We started taking favorite toys away, usually monster trucks, and putting them on the kitchen table where he could see but not reach them. He had to be good for a certain period of time (the rest of the day or next day depending on when it happened) to get it back. He was probably 2 1/2 when we started this, and I was surprised that it really worked. Time out didn’t work, nor redirection, talking, even tried a pop on the butt. This has been the only thing to work for him! There were times when he’d lose 5 trucks because he kept throwing stuff or screaming. Then he could only get 1 truck back a day. He got the point quickly!

    Hang in there, I know what you mean about perfectionism and parenting.

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